Kara-Leah Grant gets up close & personal about life on and off the yoga mat in her long-running yoga blog, Musings from the Mat.

A Personal Exploration of Vairagya (Non-Attachment) in Romantic Relationships

Kara-Leah | Photo Credit: Pete Longworth

by Kara-Leah Grant There is a man I was recently immensely attracted to - on all three levels, sacral, heart and wisdom. It felt like that attraction was reciprocal. It felt like we had a similar depth and perspective on life, similar histories, values, vision and lifestyle. So potential and possibility arose, and on my side at least, intense desire. He and I had several conversations around relationship, sexuality, purpose, life visions and purpose. It felt like we were feeling each … [Read more...]

How I Found my Ground through Shiva Rea’s Taupo Immersion

Shiva Rea at Wanderlust Great Lake Taupo. Photo Credit: June Bug Photography

by Kara-Leah Grant In February this year I spent five days at Wanderlust and then rolled straight into an Immersion with Shiva Rea. Now, a month or so later, everything around me is the same as it was. But I am not. I have deeply changed. I can feel it in the way I stand upon the earth. I can feel it in the way I wear my clothes, the way I walked my son to school, the way I'm sitting here now. Something in me has awoken - I have found my ground. Stepping back into training with Shiva was … [Read more...]

How to Liberate Yourself from the Tyranny of Desire in Romantic Relationship

Liberate yourself from romantic fantasy.

by Kara-Leah Grant When I was twelve years old I started a long short story - more of a novellete - about a young woman snatched from her home who finds herself in this other-worldly detention centre for teenagers. She's feisty as all hell, and makes a break for it with one of the other teenagers - a boy. As she and the boy go on the run, most of the action revolves around their relationship, which is fiery as all hell. Their banter is antagonistic, she gets mad at him often and isn't shy … [Read more...]

How George FM Blue Skies Gave My Radiant Self an Opportunity to Shine

Learning how to shine, wherever, however.

by Kara-Leah Grant A couple of months ago, I went to George FM's Blue Skies three-day music festival in Fiji as part of Yoga Rhythms. I wrote about that experience in this article: How George FM Blue Skies Challenged my Judging, Critical Self. This is the follow-up. Once I got over my angst and judgment about spending three days in the whirlwind of a mainstream booze-fest dance party, I got on to the serious business of being joyful. Of being me. The first time at Blue Skies Fiji that … [Read more...]

What Women Need so They Can Invite Men to Step Up

Our source of power is our own worthiness, which arises from within, not from being validated by men.

by Kara-Leah Grant, Musings from the Mat I attended an all-girls high school in Dunedin and remember clearly one year the annual production was Lysistrata. Written by Aristophanes and first staged in 411 BCE, it's a comedy detailing one woman's extraordinary mission to end the Peloponnesian War. Her method? Lysistrata convinces the women of Greece to withhold sexual privileges from their husbands until their men agree to negotiate a peace. As a teenage girl, I loved this play. I loved … [Read more...]

The Road to Living a Life of Outrageous Joy


by Kara-Leah Grant Late last year I finally re-launched my personal website. It had been a few years in the making, as I struggled to articulate who I was and what I did beyond The Yoga Lunchbox. But one Monday morning, after leading a weekend retreat called The Great Emptying Out, I was biking home from a walk along the beach feeling totally outrageous joy for no particular reason and it came to me. This is it. This is who I am. This is what I do. I live a life of outrageous … [Read more...]

On the Way Fear and Limiting Beliefs Keep Us Silent

What's your ball & chain?

by Kara-Leah Grant I have been observing a pattern of mine in relationship for some fifteen years now. I first became aware of it in 2000, during a two and a half year relationship with a beautiful man that adored me. Despite becoming aware of it then, and seeing how destructive it was for our relationship, that same pattern deepened in my next relationship, from 2002 - 2004. That pattern of behaviour was part of the reason the end of this particular relationship tipped me over the edge into … [Read more...]

How to En-lighten Yourself through Yoga Practice + Shadow Work

En-lighten yourself!

by Kara-Leah Grant Over the last eleven years I have done some deep personal work. At times it has been difficult and heart-wrenching, but always it has been rewarded and en-lightening. That work has brought me into a clear and lighter space within my own being, plus it has given me the ability to shift states of being almost at will, through the power of attention and intention. Yoga has been the cornerstone foundation of this work, but it has not been the simple act of moving through the … [Read more...]

How George FM Blue Skies Challenged my Judging, Critical Self

Mana island

by Kara-Leah Grant I've been dying to go to a pacific island for a few years now, but just haven't had the available cash to pay for a holiday. So when Rire, the other half of Yoga Rhythms, called me to say she'd landed us a gig in Fiji, all expenses paid, I was thrilled. And I didn't ask too many questions. Sign me up! Fiji here we come! A few months later, I saw the flight details - leaving Auckland at 2am on Sunday morning and flying back at 9:45am on Wednesday morning. Barely three … [Read more...]

My Private Yoga Session with Vincent Bolletta

Vincent Bolletta

by Kara-Leah Grant Ever since I interviewed Vincent Bolletta last year I've wanted to do a private yoga session with him. I knew from that interview that this was a man who knew his yoga inside out, on the energetic and physical level. Over the last few years, I've worked with a couple of teachers, both teaching in the Ashtanga lineage, Peter Sanson and Paul Scrivener. The problem is, I'm not an Ashtangi yogi and while I deeply respect the intelligence of the Ashtanga sequence, it's not … [Read more...]