Confessions of an ex-relationship manipulator and control freak

Turning away from the truth causes suffering

by Kara-Leah Grant, Musings from the Mat Ok, the headline is harsh. I admit it. But also true. See, over the last while, I've been working with a relationship pattern (a samskara) of giving away my power by not speaking my truth because I was afraid of the consequences. It's an insidious pattern because it has all kinds of detrimental effects on one's self-esteem, and the relationships one is in. Plus it creates suffering as the desire to hold on to something while betraying oneself can … [Read more...]

Confession time people. I’ve been dodging a heart truth

Time to let go

I have a huge confession to make. I don't want the responsibility for The Yoga Lunchbox anymore, and I don't know what to do about this. Because even though I don't want responsibility for the website anymore... the website isn't just about me. It's a community website, and it's taken input from the community to create such an amazing resource for the yoga community. There's been all kinds of people who've contributed to The Yoga Lunchbox - regular writers like Alys and Jessica, … [Read more...]

How does Gangaji describe the practice of enquiry?

Gangaji

The path of direct enquiry is the lineage of Ramana Maharshi and what he offered as a path to his own spiritual self-realisation. It is what Papaji taught, and what Gangaji now teaches. Ramana once defined the practice of enquiry by starting with the question: Who Am I ? For all thoughts the source is the 'I' thought. If thoughts arise, without trying to complete them, enquire; to whom did this thought arise. What does it matter how many thoughts arise? As each thought arises, be … [Read more...]

Rolling with Gangaji and how she scuttled my boat Part 2

Gangaji

My first impression of Gangaji, the person in real life, left me a little surprised. On the YouTube clips, I remembered her being a wise and encompassing energy, a presence larger than life with a chameleon of hairstyles. When I opened my eyes as we finished our coming-together mediation, I saw the energy of a child sitting up on stage. She was calm and so innocent. Her distinctive locks of hair were pulled back into a neat librarian’s bun. This is Gangaji? Slowly her presence … [Read more...]

Rolling with Gangaji and how she scuttled my boat Part 1

Gangaji

You know, I’m often tempted to start many of the article I write with marveling at how synchronistic our world is. How missing out on one event meant that I turned up to another. How I ended up at the right place at the right time. So forgive me for overstating it right up front, but isn’t life’s timing perfect! In this instance, I am referring to Gangaji’s visit to Australasia late last year. Timing had it that I missed out on her New Zealand visit, something I really wanted … [Read more...]

How I finally kicked my co-dependent relationship to the kerb

Strong & independent or insecure & needy?

Who'd've thought? Strong, independent, courageous Moi was stuck in a co-dependent relationship. Yep, me neither. Despite getting wind of this fact about halfway through our 3 year or so relationship, it took me another 18 months to break the pattern. Which in the end meant breaking off the relationship. This relationship had been increasingly volatile ever since I got back from Prana Flow yoga teacher training in LA. I'd made a commitment to myself on the return plane flight that I … [Read more...]